How can we transform conflict at home, at work, in our communities and in the world?
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What is the Third Side?
3S Assumptions
3S Skills
Where is it Working?
3S Roles Everyone Plays
Apply 3S to my Situation
Teach about the Third Side
Thirdside Conversations
Everyday Thirdside Actions
Keep me Informed
4 Steps

Step 1
Review the cost of your conflict.

Step 2

Part A
On the following scale, indicate where your situation is:

Part B
Answer each statement for your current situation and discover which Thirdsider roles could help transform your conflict.

1. People's basic needs are satisfied- for life's necessities, for safety, for respect and identity, and for control over their own fate.
Yes:      No:
2. People have the knowledge, skills, and attitudes necessary to deal with their differences through dialogue, joint problem-solving, and tolerance.
Yes:      No:
3. There are strong working relationships between those who are in tension or in active conflict with one another.
Yes:      No:
4. People assume opposed positions (i.e. one side wants it one way, the other wants it the opposite way).
Yes:      No:
5. There is an argument about who is right. One side - or both - believes that the other is violating their rights.
Yes:      No:
6. Among the parties power is unequal. The playing field is not level.
Yes:      No:
7. The relationships between people are injured.
Yes:      No:
8. Bystanders and third parties who could intervene if necessary are paying close attention to the situation.
Yes:      No:
9. There are well developed and accepted rules for limiting destructive conflict.
Yes:      No:
10. There is sufficient protection available if necessary to stop destructive conflict from escalating.
Yes:      No: