How can we transform conflict at home, at work, in our communities and in the world?
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THE EQUALIZER: STOPPING DOMESTIC ABUSE

Sally was faced with an alcoholic husband, John, who turned violent when drunk. John had repeatedly broken his promises to stop drinking and he absolutely refused to undergo treatment.

In desperation, Sally resorted to an approach sometimes called an "intervention." She turned to others for help: his children, siblings, closest friends, and work colleagues.

They called a meeting with John. One by one they told him how much he meant to them and recounted specific incidents of violent behavior, dangerous driving, and personal embarrassment. Collectively they insisted he seek help. To make his decision easier, they had already prepared a list of three treatment centers and made reservations at each. They left the choice of treatment center up to him.

Faced with an outpouring of concern and peer pressure from the people he most cared about, John decided to accept the help being offered and underwent treatment.

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